Meeting the needs of your children, caring for the home, attending work and/or school, taking your children to extracurricular events and/or spending time with your husband, consumes most of our time. Where do friendships fit in? How do you manage your social life? If you’re a mom, then you know how hard it is maintaining friendships during motherhood. Whether you have one kid or ten kids, life as a mom is busy. I continually strive to create a balance in my life and with life ever-changing, I find it’s a constant battle. Sometimes I am successful and other times, I know a change is needed.
I focus on the following tips to help me be the best friend I can during this busy season. You may notice these practical tips can also be applied to other areas in your life!
5 tips: Maintaining friendships during motherhood
- Be understanding – Don’t be a high maintenance friend. Refrain from being easily offended and don’t take things personal if someone has to cancel, reschedule or is unable to make it out to an event. Be compassionate and have an understanding heart.
- Align activities with every day tasks – It’s easier to find time for friends when you’re able to do errands and activities together! Are you enjoying a weekly parent and tot swim with your baby? Why not invite a friend to join you? Think about your weekly, scheduled tasks on your calendar and decide which ones you can invite a friend along. Grocery shopping and working out are much more enjoyable with good company!
- Set boundaries – Guard your most valuable times. In our home, our family day, church service and c-group times are non-negotiable. It is so important to carve that time out for the things you hold closest to your heart. If you are quick to give up what’s important in your life, you can easily end up resentful with plenty of regrets. Don’t feel guilty setting boundaries, a true friend will respect your choices.
- The more the merrier – If you have a circle of friends who all know each other, you can arrange a night out with everyone! A ladies night out is so refreshing! Right ladies? You can even make it a reoccurring event each month.
- Be real – Be honest with yourself and your friends. If we are unable to follow through with commitments than let’s just be real. We are all in the same boat: trying to be the best mother, wife, friend we know how and we can easily relate when we know the truth of the matter.
Just because we’re busy being an awesome mom, doesn’t mean we have to let our friendships fall to pieces. Let’s support one another and be giving of our time.